Dating advice for shy singles
-- but it's like compound interest: the more you have the more you get. As Emily Dickinson wrote, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience." The most important piece of love advice I ever got was this: "Treat yourself like a prize." The strange part is: I can no longer remember who first passed on the wisdom.
(In my mind, it's some sexy woman-of-a-certain age with five ex-husbands, smoking a Virginia Slim 100.) But the real identity is lost to me.
Even so, the advice has stuck in my head all these years, and I still recite it to single friends who seem to have trouble making romantic relationships stick.
The point is not that you should act arrogantly or as if entitled, but that, if you act as if you have value in the world, others are more likely to treat you that way.
My dad said something which has never left me in my 14 years of marriage, "You only have to answer to yourself. If you can live with this man don't let others influence your decision.
And always remember that this man is the father of your children." And I have always relied on this advice.
He told me that when a married couple fights, no one wins.
I wanted to hear more of these stories from other women, all sharing those key moments from their lives.The best advice I ever got about love was from my grandmother, right before I got married.